Just do it!

Growing up I always felt that having kids was somehow "not cool", I felt urged, encouraged, by magazines, media, and teachers to "Be Equal to Men" and they don't give birth. We were to aim for independence, have an education equal to men, have our own income, own home, a career, to travel and see the world, do the things our mothers either did not or could not do. But certainly not ever, never get pregnant. That was for losers.

Of course none of us really succeeded in all areas of our "feminist manifesto".

Then the next big Ideal was to "Have it All" the career and the family. I doubt that was ever truly rewarding. Myself I always knew that would be too great a struggle to achieve!

Admittedly I was 15 years behind schedule When I bought my first house. But I had got there. Living alone, on "The Property Ladder" the other Great British Aim I could tick yet another box on the" feminists agenda for a successful life". So now what? I had had the promotion , now I had property, I had had the relationships, had lived abroad, yet still something was missing. But what?

Girls if you are reading this, and you are married or in a stable relationship with a future, with a guy whom you love and respect and who reciprocates, just do it. Start a family! Don't wait for the Right Time, or the Right Amount in the Bank, that will never happen. I can honestly say that having my boy at 41 was the most awesome thing I have ever done. Creating a life, and shaping that life, being guardian to that little human being, is the most sublime achievement a woman can have. I wish I had met my husband earlier in life.

Being Mummy is the most rewarding role I have ever had, it is unsalaried, undervalued and unappreciated work,there is no time out, no long lunches, no Christmas Bonus, no 3 weeks holiday- but it is the most important job a woman can do. If I were 34 instead of 44 I would be having number 2,3 and more if I could.

Why did I not know about this before????????? Damn you feminists for keeping this a secret!